10 Greatly underestimated Fitness and weight loss practices

No wasting time! Read on! It’s not just about workout and sugar free and crash diets! These fitness tips are possible to be followed by anyone despite their lack of time and motivation.

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Lessons from being around husband

img_0527.jpgHe holds an MBA degree. But I don’t think all the skilfulness  comes from education.

All through my years ,I read countless self help books and the only thing that happened was I helped authors get richer .Never in all my life I understood what was wrong with the way I dealt things. Well that is until you watch someone daily.  No amount of inspiration is effective- not to me – till you see principles in action.

Dear mr.Prabhu, if you are reading this, I should tell you I am very grateful for having you.I have been thoroughly impressed many a time but still am waiting for that “Head over heels -in-love” moment. It may or may not come in an arranged marriage but thanks for helping me share some of your No-bull-shit life lessons with readers.

Now presenting “The Top life  lessons” from my husband.

1)Take risks rarely:

That about  saves unnecessary waste of energy so you can use it when and where you really need it. Other times- play it safe.

2)Be nice to the boss, the colleague and the janitor- with equal emphasis:

Everyone matters. Someday, any one can be your saviour or friend. But it’s not for popularity that you be nice because people will figure it out anyway.

Shying away from a basic good morning is a no-no. Buy people coffee. Remember people. Attend calls ( unless it is an annoying customer on Sunday morning) and  leave good memories associated with you. Never think its too much to show politeness. Which also means you treat people on HIGHER GROUND confidently with niceness. People are ultimately people. Right?

3)Never complicate things

I thought I was improvising until I realised how much I complicated things.You buy milk and eggs. Not milk, eggs and more milk and more eggs and frozen food for fear of “Day After Tomorrow” class storms on a dry day.

4)Do not see obstacles as emotional setbacks

You break your nail- trim it. Don’t break your nail and ponder over the internet for sheer lack of luck and vitamin deficiency. Forget about nails for another few weeks. Move on. It’s just a Goddamn nail.Prioritise problems.

5)Speak less , listen and ask the right questions- everywhere

It surprised me at the number of friends he made and how less he actually talked.

Speak only when needed – listen- about them- an act which strengthens relationships both professional and personal by avoiding unnecessary argument and out of bound subjects. It projects you as less of a critic and more of an analyst and listener. Build Trust. Get business ✅ done Which is all the better.

6) Value your money:

There was a time when we had ordered a mobile phone holder for a relatively small price. He Wasnt satisfied with it and we could have kept after a few adjustments . He chose return-and-refund.

“My money must reap satisfaction if I choose to spend it ” he wasn’t afraid to look like a miser though he spends for things he likes. When you have an offer online? Why pick the showroom with value added tax?

7)Everyone  need not know everything

I never got updates about the day. Neither did his mom or friends unless they asked. I, finding it fishy asked why he wouldn’t share anything. He replied that  it was a very regular day . If something bad happened he didn’t want to ruin the evening reliving the memory. If something good or funny happened he would tell me. I never found it appreciable for a year. But when I implemented the same, I understood that it put me at an unbelievable decision making freedom and mental clarity .

It is a trait of highly decisive and independent people. It doesn’t mean you don’t love someone it means you needn’t let them in on everything and scramble thinking unless it concerns them. It tests and builds trust around silence. What is a relationship when there isn’t an obligation to explain everything ? Works for me. Thanks! !

8)When angry -be quiet. For hours.

When you say things in anger, you get back ugly responses that would take weeks to forget and more weeks to undo the damage done and trust severed- Not a good time investment or energy policy.

9) If you really like something- buy it or go do it.

Or find ways to. Build enough trust that someone will not hesitate to offer you a loan. And definitely repay. Want to ride far- do it without announcing it- (and come back one ☝️ piece) Never blame another for being a dream-shatterer. It’s up to you.

10) Think business- but with ethics

Loan out. Lend. Settle. Recover your money. Buy people lunch.  Make deals that makes the person feel- “It’s pleasure doing business with you Mr/Ms”. What goes must come and what comes must go.

11) Set limits with everyone

He will probably regret letting me learn this. Not giving another the power to affect you completely empowers you, makes you temporarily immortal.

12)when late- find the shortest way to get things done

Don’t let work and deadline kill you.

13) Be yourself. Live like today is the last.

that also implies you stay humble by not taking anything too seriously- not even yourself .

14) Sleep is meditation. Sleep like a baby.

Love sleep more than your spouse.

Namaste.zzzz.

 

A dangerously beautiful level of freedom

Murphy’s law. Most people wouldn’t have come across this particular law of events ( though not scientifically backed) until they watched Christopher Nolan’s Interstellar. I belonged to that category. What Murphy’s law actually means has different facets and versions but to sum it all up, it’s Murph Cooper’s line “It means something bad will happen” hinting the universe’s thermodynamic property of always moving into a chaotic state. I agreed with it partially because it’s so easy and less time consuming to actually break something as opposed to making it.  But look at it from a non-human, unconscious perspective or simply from the perspective of the universe assuming it’s not conscious hence does not really ‘feel’, you see ‘events’ happen. Be it a nuclear meltdown or birth of ten puppies to a husky mother , an event is an event and not a good event or bad event. From the non human perspective Murphy’s law takes another morph that Cooper restates to his daughter “It does not mean something bad will happen,it means what can happen , will happen”

This version of it hit me hard during my early weeks of motherhood, everything was fine one moment and everything would come crashing on me the other. I had felt very unlucky all my life. So motherhood wasn’t God or universe’s way of teaching me a lesson to keep my head low. It has always been low to the best of my knowledge. So there was no exact stroke of bad luck whilst many around me had happier or more blissful lives . My life’s events were independent of others’ . There was nothing relative about them unless I related them to find a reason to worry. I had been counting the broken eggs for 22 long years. What a waste of time! Instead of using the adversities to quiet my inner turbulence and evolve, evolve and evolve from the challenges I bragged, bragged about how weak I was, how impossible my life was until I quiete did the jump against my fears, face to face with them. The best piece of advice to me came from one of my friends at Canada,

“what you can’t control, do not even think about it. What you can control, control fully”

Those words do not strike you hard unless you realise how much time you have wasted worrying, fearing things and procrastinating and drinking coffee to drown the sorrow. The words do not strike you deep unless you realise how far behind are you and how little time you have. They don’t hit you hard until you realise how people with relatively smaller skill sets made it bigger than you just because they were persistent and somehow spoke like they had the best in them. Sometimes you need to knock a 100 doors before 1 opens. I hadn’t knocked even 20.

It is an odd feeling when you realise how you showcase your talents and beliefs to people who would criticise and destroy ideas rather than people who believe, get up and do.

You don’t achieve a dangerously high level of freedom unless you stop worrying about

what other people think about you. By “others ” I mean  colleagues, peers, best friends, girlfriend, boyfriend ,your mom, dad, family, spouse etc. Which is harder than anything because most of our lives are spent satisfying them and vying for their approval. So whose approval do you need to measure each step of your life though it may not be big and may be as small as making a perfect cup of tea or dancing with complete balance in front of the mirror? – Yours- your approval.

unless you are satisfied, no amount of impression will satisfy you. No amount of success will feel good because others may feel ” differently ” about it. I gave my sister a piece of advice once , “Don’t take yourself so seriously at school, what’s the point of impressing people who wouldn’t even remember you when you are gone?”

Suddenly leaving high school was analogous to leaving earth to me. I can’t fill the saucer naturally without filling the cup. I needed to feel good first to make others feel the same. Which does not come from beating yourself up and morphing into something new every time somebody throws at you an opinion- even if it is your mom.

you need to love them but not necessarily their opinion.

Once you realise that, like me probably ( it took me until motherhood) you understand quiete scientifically and with sufficient evidence how you attract what you think and get results similar to your bias like quantum physics says about observing.

And – you would have achieved a dangerously beautiful level of FREEDOM.

namaste!

The sinking ship of Democracy

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Man is a social animal. He finds happiness in seeing everyone around him secure and happy. Because that means security for himself”

“Problems and politics are as old as Human race is. But the instinct of identifying a problem and solving it is embedded in our genes, re-embossed again and again through evolution, we WILL find a way- some day. Survival is in our genetics”

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He kept shouting. Placards kept hovering over his head. He kept shouting for people who wouldn’t care or wouldn’t risk it. He knew he was risking his life but he kept shouting anyway”.

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Decades ago, the Garden of Eden or Noah’s Ark seemed the most distant things to relate to reality. Those entities associated with religion were chased to and stayed in books due to the lashes of scepticism and lack of currently existing proof. Today we have another Noah’s Ark, rather an Ark that is sinking- the ship of DEMOCRACY with FAITH on board. True democracy too has been chased to only text books and people’s debate on TV shows everyday (Even TRP ratings might be falling because everyone is getting bored!… yawn!!!!) . Everybody gives their opinion. Nothing changes. Had Noah seen what humanity and its existence was to become, he would have let the deluge take humans saving only the animals on board.

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We agree with votes. We would also like to vote for EVERY BILL passed as we vote for EVERY candidate…. sounds uncomfortable enough for some?.. sounds distant to me.”

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Democracy is participatory politics- How participatory is your democracy?….Mmm not much. Your participation starts and ends with the pressing of that Ballot button. Even if it was a rigged one ( Disclaimer: So they say!!!)democracy

We had wars, we had revolutions. We had Sati and female feticide abolished and celebrated it too long in our text books while the world kept changing in its own Pace- A very fast one bringing wrong practices with it. Today there is not an intellectual quarrel or a debate on ideologies. But the debate on the denial of the basic.

  1. Freedom of speech- curbed- (call you anti-national and that would suffice)
  2. Lack of personal safety
  3. Food insecurity
  4. water

One might say, excuse me.. Water? you are being denied water?. Yes. Water in a country that has 3200 major, minor dams and barrages?. Well….. Yes. A country that boasts of its space program whilst desalination plants seem light years away?. Yes. Aadhaar cards became mandatory, so did ration cards, nobody told you not to depend on supplied water but stock and recycle water through rain water harvest?. No. Why?? Because if they did, the next election manifesto cannot be “Clean drinking water to every household.”

You possess meat and get killed for it while you rape a woman and get away with it. India is a country of many standards. Many, many. You have a problem with connectivity on your newly released free SIM card while where is the guarantee of my safety whilst I walk on road? Media encourages people to be bold enough to sexually abuse and traffic humans and yet you keep denying it. Oh why? Because primary and secondary industries would be ruined?

Okay, forget that.

Pro- Hindu, pro-minority, communist, socialist, globalist, privatised, demonetised, Gandhian, Pro-Dalit, anti-reservation, feminist, pro-transgender, anti-gender bias, whatever the ideology, finally they could not secure the basic to the people- Where the heck is my WATER?

The list of flaws is so big it would seem the biggest of  flaws to list them in the first place. So, we see very obviously that the availability of VOTING efficacy is not the right measure of DEMOCRACY. You have a problem with basic right denial and nobody is around to secure that? That isn’t what democracy defines itself as, “By the people, FOR the people?”  For which people? For anybody who finds the “O” in democracy is hollow and escapes through it with anything?

When the voted and chosen people’s representative himself just kills the NATIONALIST ideology by turning two different LINGUISTIC (not even ETHNIC) groups against one another. Do you really think peace loving Bangaloreans burnt Tamil Nadu registered buses?… If you still think so. You are buying it.

The Thai Puratchi ( pro-Jallikattu protest) is a win for the people but a silent alarm for those in power and those who would want to be in power. If the people do not stay as awake as they were or are distressed and distracted by water, safety and food issues, it may be made sure nothing of that scale ever threatens the system of governance today.

What can be done?

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“Comrade….. do you think we do not know something is not right?….Ignore it!!! Save yourself the trouble!”

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Nothing of politics or crime is my problem until something pricks me and my everyday life. After that we automatically become cynical citizens to whom GRAVE INJUSTICE has been done. So if you live in a country , are given a national TAG, an ethnic TAG, an identity and all you have to do is live everyday with the fear that something may happen to you or your family and property someday anytime, it isn’t worth the vote nor the shout.

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Un-shackling yourself

Exercising our given rights fully and being sustainable is the first duty you do to yourself rather than rise in rebellion. For rebellion need not always be loud and big. Question everything before you buy or use something. Try growing a small amount of your own food. Save water, harvest rain , break a sweat for it, for you can’t drink bank cash. Fit yourself a UPS system. Try home remedies.Use environment friendly natural cleaners like ash. Do not always depend on processed and semi-processed food, buy local produce rather than from posh super-markets. Teach your kids to find everything except phones and electronic screens interesting. Buy them a pet. Defend your ideologies where you have to.Be connected with your locals, discuss, make friends, expand your circle, keep demanding things from your local administrative board. Discuss, discuss, discuss with family. Keep asking questions, until the major public debate one day becomes- Is the colour yellow or red that boosts happiness and peace. Even if that would be a century away. Demonetisation must have taught us that money isn’t the most safest thing you can leave your kids, anything can change during their time.

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Charity begins at home. So does an Utopian future. 

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DEATH OF INNOCENCE

He who gave a helping hand

North, South, West and East;

Made a blunder

To imagine that

It would be remembered, even if  rewarded never

To those with Values Old School

The New world often throws

A deafening slap

Maiming not only faith yet Innocence along too

He who swore;

He would rather die than betray

Often dies than survives by mere chance

Even if alive

What dies in him is

Innocence and faith that ever good deeds at the least

Reach those who need what we call

‘A helping Hand’

With a family so dearly He holds

As His kingdom

And a kingdom He so dearly holds

As His family

Killing both dreams, zeal, love and freedom

With the same weapon of determination and wit

Once thought to hopefully help

Find new ways to conquer the world

Only to en-slave Himself

In the Act of Protecting

The innocent ones He has wanted to serve but

Never dreamt to serve so soon

He seals his heart in a trove

Sets it on a voyage

Across waters where the shore it finds

May never be His own

Knowing living a life without a Core

Is like living like the Inferi themselves

Does it matter?

When Good is protected? And the ones you love find asylum?

Sacrifice they call it awakens the true King

The true ruler in

All of us.

Counting he does over the days

He has to step and slip on

For one day may be right

To Weigh the balance right

To equate scores

To show

The meek are powerful

When rehabilitated

For lust and lustre  and barbaric disposition

May Seem the only protective armours

In a world teeming with

Thousands who live like the Inferi

Behind nothing

Throwing waste, Using both Friend and Foe alike

Seeking pleasure through heartless hunt

Call it the New World Way

Where they sculpt themselves not to Please

But rather sell themselves

Like slaves mistakenly seeing themselves as king

Where you have to be wrong to be right

And cruel to be ‘cool’

And Perverse  to be ‘dominant’

Unfortunately for them

There are some who agree

To disagree

And beg to differ

For the purpose of life

Lies mated for ever with kindness and self respect

Not many know it early enough

Until the same Deafening slap, awakens the unprotected

Child in them.

 

Refer: inferi : http://harrypotter.wikia.com/wiki/Inferius