DEATH OF INNOCENCE

He who gave a helping hand

North, South, West and East;

Made a blunder

To imagine that

It would be remembered, even if  rewarded never

To those with Values Old School

The New world often throws

A deafening slap

Maiming not only faith yet Innocence along too

He who swore;

He would rather die than betray

Often dies than survives by mere chance

Even if alive

What dies in him is

Innocence and faith that ever good deeds at the least

Reach those who need what we call

‘A helping Hand’

With a family so dearly He holds

As His kingdom

And a kingdom He so dearly holds

As His family

Killing both dreams, zeal, love and freedom

With the same weapon of determination and wit

Once thought to hopefully help

Find new ways to conquer the world

Only to en-slave Himself

In the Act of Protecting

The innocent ones He has wanted to serve but

Never dreamt to serve so soon

He seals his heart in a trove

Sets it on a voyage

Across waters where the shore it finds

May never be His own

Knowing living a life without a Core

Is like living like the Inferi themselves

Does it matter?

When Good is protected? And the ones you love find asylum?

Sacrifice they call it awakens the true King

The true ruler in

All of us.

Counting he does over the days

He has to step and slip on

For one day may be right

To Weigh the balance right

To equate scores

To show

The meek are powerful

When rehabilitated

For lust and lustre  and barbaric disposition

May Seem the only protective armours

In a world teeming with

Thousands who live like the Inferi

Behind nothing

Throwing waste, Using both Friend and Foe alike

Seeking pleasure through heartless hunt

Call it the New World Way

Where they sculpt themselves not to Please

But rather sell themselves

Like slaves mistakenly seeing themselves as king

Where you have to be wrong to be right

And cruel to be ‘cool’

And Perverse  to be ‘dominant’

Unfortunately for them

There are some who agree

To disagree

And beg to differ

For the purpose of life

Lies mated for ever with kindness and self respect

Not many know it early enough

Until the same Deafening slap, awakens the unprotected

Child in them.

 

Refer: inferi : http://harrypotter.wikia.com/wiki/Inferius

 

 

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How do you face your “Unfair Life”..? – 27 ways to it

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“Nobody ever became an inspiration playing it comfortable and safe”

God answers  all questions except :  “Why me?”. He will want you to figure it out by yourself. ________________________________________________________________________________

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference between the two” -The Serenity prayer ______________________________________________________________________________ tumblr_static_1   

1)You don’t get to decide this. “This is how I am ,this is how things should go in my life because people around me get all this”. You are not the one calling all the shots in the universe. You can change things. But you cannot expect things to change by themselves without  putting in work. Somebody out there is unluckier than you are. Do not always expect miracles. But save them for the best moments.

2)There is no point in saying “Happiness is for the bad guy, not for guys like me”. Well, how do you know he is truly happy?. May be he is just pretending to be. Is he the kind of person you should be jealous of? Why have you not changed till now knowing the other guy is happier?. You know the answer. You stay put with your deepest beliefs if you think they are worth it.

3)Do not expect results too fast: You want to lose weight,improve your networking skills, you want to be regular in your workout, you need to improve your wittiness to handle a bully at college or workplace, all this will not happen in a day. They may not happen in “days” at all.  The universe does not keep dates. It gives a damn about our calendar. There exist benchmark stages .All you can do is first put in hearty wholesome work. Later you measure them, not often but regularly. You congratulate yourself not for improvement but for getting so many things done. Your hot streak of improvement may come at anytime, like trying to get taller. Unless you have dumped loads and loads of hard work with an ample dose of rest and probably some working professional advice-  Do not expect LUCK and don’t depend on it.

4)Figure out your own rhythm of when you are at your best and when you are not- you may not be good at “to-do” lists, you may be really good when you do things at random. You may or may not be a multi-tasker. You may understand well when you read under candle light. You need not have the same power of concentration as your classmate or your colleague.The point is, you don’t waste time changing your basic abilities and inabilities but tune your efforts to suit your most efficient self. Your resume may not be as full as your friend’s but the point is that something there is good enough for being paid and genuine.

5)Talk to people who mean so much to you when misunderstood- you will perform poorly when you can’t fix personal issues- with a spouse or a best friend, a sibling or  most importantly- a parent. You don’t yell at them and expect them to understand all that went wrong but talk it – no matter how dramatic it gets. You love them, make them understand that. You don’t fix things by having a middleman. Keep an open line of communication, earn their trust, keep it.

6)Your life is bad? You  know that lots of lives out there  are.. May be not in the same tone of bad or the same situation of depression but bad is still bad. You can’t handle your life, well you cannot exchange it with another. Thing is your life isn’t bad. It’s averagely bad. If it were that bad, like homeless or hungry or lost a limb or a loved one – you would not be sitting here reading this. Highly unlikely.

7)Everyone has some fun so you must do something that you don’t heartily approve of”- you want to do something and feel bad about yourself or you would pick a nice pillow cry and feel better. You choose.Crying out is not weakness. No problem.

8)Do not blame your decisions or yourself for the  bad results too much When you decided over something like a college change or a relationship decision, you did it because you thought it would be okay or because some other factors pushed you. Its hardly unlikely that anything else would have happened given your personality or nature like you may be sensitive or get inclined to others’ opinions or you are a safe decision maker. See everybody makes ugly mistakes that mess their lives up. Some stories come out. Some don’t. Don’t get judgmental about others but don’t be so hard on yourself. Its ok… what next?

9)Do not live and relive traumatic experiences in your head .Talk to somebody who won’t pity you but would understand when you have had an experience you cannot easily talk about. Do not expect it to motivate you. For it is full of pain and bad memories.  No dose of self-pity is good. Take some time. It would have changed you. Don’t let it kill you. You are not the only one. Blame nobody. Do not harbor hatred. Jumping to revenge won’t help. You are okay and you will be. You are brave for you have survived.

10) Do not take advice that you don’t ask for When you don’t ask for advice and somebody gives a pretty offensive opinion, that just lives and dies as an opinion. Please don’t sulk about it for the whole day or years- go tell that jerk he is wrong and you don’t need his opinion.  If you really respect the person who said that, do tell them, but politely. End it there.

11)Do not be afraid of the things life will force you to do Most of the things a person does in life are those he is “okay” with doing. So do not dread your future. Most of the things you are afraid of won’t happen. May be bad things will surprise you but what is there in being afraid of things you can do nothing about, if something can be done- think if its ok, give it a try. Because you have no hope of victory- do you want to change? Decide.

12)Embarrassments happen -so what?? Celebrities live with huge embarrassments . They move on. All you have to do is become okay with some embarrassment in a small circle of people. Be mature. You are .But be mature again. Give yourself a reason to accept it. Answer questions. Show a happy face. Be happy with the people you feel warm about. There will be some random person you can share things to.

You won’t feel alone about it.

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13)Not lucky with love and marriage?  Understand what is stopping you. Have the guts to change it. The problem is you and me are afraid about every one of our human relationships. Any solution to a grown up that excludes suicide or drugs is right in front of your eyes. You are just too afraid to pick it up. Or you are afraid of the consequences. You play too much by the rules to be blamed some day else. If it will do good, why not try an alternative solution, a non-conventional one? Nobody is going to stand with you when you feel too bad. Because they won’t know it. You cannot go against the ones you love- very noble, but you CAN convince them. Nobody is “Impossible to convince” unless he’s a molester or a rapist or a serial killer( which is not easy to spot of course). Try. You love and care about them. You don’t want to be immoral. That’s the best thing about you. But be different. This problem needs you to solve it.tumblr_l4v9skbkee1qakn44

14)Somebody you love is going to get married to someone else? Don’t hate it. Have you told them? If you have, you have done your part.Did they love you back? Do not ask people questions that they don’t want to answer.  Big deal. You love them no matter what. There is always another life!. You can’t move on. Its okay, get married anyway. Be somebody’s happiness. You don’t want to sulk your whole life away. Give it a try. I can’t prove my statement. But you can’t prove I’m wrong either now, can you?

15)People are too sarcastic about your failures and shortcomings?– Confront them but not violently. Sarcasm and wit has never been a one man’s game.’ You have a mouth. Use it. Sarcasm is learn-able and fun.

16)Do not get scared about the way time flows. Time gives a damn about you. May be you should too sometimes. Nothing seems to be improving. You do not see light at the end of the tunnel?. Find a way to bring light. Because only you can. Ask for help.See we have no proof if the universe is a conscious agent trying to make you better and better with experiences. But neither do we have proof if it is NOT either. You believe something good. What is the harm?

17)Do not be afraid of disappointments. There are a million ways to get hurt. Disappointment is just one of them. Somebody does not act the way you expect them to be?. Well, give them the personal space to do the action and face its consequences. Why should you be bothered?. If they want to be with you, they will try, you should not act like you are their only “thing”. Don’t feel so great about yourself. Give people their space.

18)Do not rely on everything books say. There are always exceptions. Even in personality readings.  Self-help books are great. But when you do not find the philosophy fitting into your life, find your own or get a new book. But do not be lost with them. You can figure out your life better than any motivational speaker. You just need a push.

19)When people change- give them the space to do it. Something must have happened. The human psyche has evolved so much in the past many many years and the complex combination of any personality is not usually straight or simple. If people choose to be with you, fine. If they do not , not so fine. But okay. You can follow what you believe at your deepest. But it would sound a little narcisstic if you expect others to be. You will waste time worrying.

20)Whether with spouse or kids or mom or dad- you do not force feed your love or concern. If you do, it means you are expecting their attention. Something in return.You put up emotional dramas.  Something like business cannot be love. When somebody force feeds it on you, make them understand that it need not be done this way.

21)Make all the sorries told but do not expect forgiveness and do not trouble the person. Explain any stupid thing you may have done to them.

22) Do not get jealous often in love– when your partner tells you somebody looks or dresses better ,tell him or her about somebody who behaves better. It does not imply they plan on leaving you or are bad people.  Finish it there. Why carry inferior feelings around?. Even when somebody makes you feel bad- YOU GET UP, DRESS UP and SHOW UP.You don’t end relationships because you suspect. You end the when you “know”. You wait until then. Then move on.

23)You be the change you want the society to have Do not wail on the internet or merely sign internet petitions to get things done.  Do not be depressed because of that. You practice and talk to people in real life. When people see things in action, that is when they really think.  Take all the social action off the social media. It makes a better impact. Do not rely on just sharing your views. Put them to practice to see how it really works.

24)When you think you must give up and change- think for a moment if you will want to come back- think about why some people look up to you and want to be like you  You have come this far- stick on to your principles. Someday you will thank yourself for it . Now though it may seem thin and vague. What is the point in going back when you have come this far?- Is it worth?

25) You are never too young to make a mature decision nor too old to stand up for something or to be happy. There is the biological age and the mental age. Which all may be different from your actual age. If there is no other go but to believe there is a God in the happenings of your life. Believe him. No harm ever comes from believing a bigger force, if there is nothing left to be done

26) Your life is too bad? Think again. – I mean again. If it still looks bad. There has got to be lot of scope for improvement. Things don’t happen sometimes. You make them happen. You love your life for giving you the paint brush.

27) You do not become something because you have a degree or because its on your resume. You do not become a doctor and just sit there. You become a doctor everyday when you wake up. That is when you live as one.  When people will truly respect you for your profession ,then is when.

Consistency is the true measure of maturity. No amount of philosophy is.  Understand you were here to do big things. If you are ever reading this, you feel you might have had an unfair life. You have a great future. If you are a rebel for the right cause, you are making big changes already. Believe in the impossible. Because you were IMPOSSIBLE too before you were born- but here you are. Now deal with that unfair  life

Heart murmur and troubles

That muscular labyrinthine organ

That was named “the heart”

The books of science of today

Find that that muscular fist-size organ

Sends more signals to

The brain, than the brain to the heart

Don’t I , a poor human know that

Already for it has a magic bind, like a tracker

That wherever my brain may wander

The heart would bring it back

To the place of its own will

The master of the body

Is a question of debate inside me.

You can control the mind

But how will you shackle the noise maker?

Who like a truant school child

Keeps wanting and asking

For the things at THE VENDOR

That are already sold

I say you will not get them

Let us go home

But he maddens me by repeating

No it is mine and it will come

I say no child please let me do my chores

He keeps bringing me back to the things I will not get

AT the cost of my working hours

Sending me on voyages in a little raft

In the sea of imagination , wonder and sometimes peace.

How much more should I beg you?

You are so random dear Heart

You listen to no obvious reason

But you listen with rapt

Attention to the tiniest things around you

Generate in us what they call “Gut feeling”

That often contradicts any sense

Any logic, any reason that may come of help

In a rational world

Why make me look like a foolish lass

When everybody is speeding to win

But to where I still do not see

How you are so cautious and many times right

I cannot judge

I am trying to convert myself

Into the religion of Logic and Reason

But you seem to hold me ever more tighter

Since you knew I was changing

You do not let me sleep

Nor eat peacefully

I always eat and sleep peacefully

But what are you doing to me now Oh Lo!

No amount of browsing for proof against your claims

Seems to silence you

For your louder with every argument with me

When prose was my best bet

You make me write poetry

You are making me a happy child

When I am trying to grow up

You are showing me my own

Instances of childhood open

Inside I feel

Like something is opening

That causes me to breath well

I know its your work

And I am ever grateful to you for that

Oh Random Labyrinthine Castle

What is the secret you hold

When will you ever let me sleep

And be peaceful with myself

Why are you throwing connections afar

When my work and life is here?

Somehow even my brain feels

All is well that ends well

And this story, seems to end well

One way or the other

Please do not make me the jester

At my own court that is all I will plead you

Oh you muscular fist-large master

Of my mind…

Who has been working

Since even long before

My zero(th) birthday

Why did you take a space in my trunk in that hollow

When you are doing the work the one in the head should be doing.

I wonder why, He created the mind and heart apart

Like Yin and Yang

Neither seems complete without the other.

 

Pavi and Shru’s Day out- A journey in a loop

Deep in the soul when my day goes about the usual

Somewhere in the corner embedded was a feeling

A thought, a source where things

Unseen flashed before like they were or would

Happen now or soon or had happened

Only that I did not see them with the same eyes as I see them now”

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10367787_1552927028323428_1781395243747287051_n“Hey bibliophile!!”(My club head was referring to the second part of my email ID, I am not so much of a bibliophile but he found it amusing, we  all like his taste for fun anyway) “Are you coming for the field visit tomorrow or not??!” he asked, for I was unsure of my answer. I didn’t have cash to share-pay the cab fare, I didn’t want to miss the Aadhar card procedure either. Dilemma, double mindedness tearing my decisions apart, I decided to attend the College sports meet for Pavitra, whom most people would associate as  Shrutthi’s bestie. It was mostly an instinctive decision. .I told her I would come on one condition, that she explores Ketti with me. I won’t have much time in college. It is a pretty lonely road down Palada but it is extremely scenic behind Laidlaw Memorial School as much as Kotagiri and other parts of Ooty,  and a cab or bike journey cannot tell you how much scenic and soul cleansing these warmer , lower slopes of Nilgiris are. I didn’t want to lie at home but I didn’t want to miss an opportunity of exploration. Why should boys do all the exploration huh?. Forget that gender comment, I forget I am a girl when I get serious or travel-philic. I packed my back pack. My club head “Tin Tin” was going to kill me if he ever found I was roaming about the valley without attending the field trip.  I was supposed to be a responsible recruit.

Reaching college at nine I learnt that Pavitra had missed the bus. I caught the company of my class girls and quickly rang up Pavitra to tell her to  reach college. The girls and me hypothesized that if we ever got onto the ground for sports, there was going to be no getting out. Heavy security. We decided to stay off campus during the sports and join the girls who were on their way.  The security guard began whistling signaling us to get onto the ground. As everybody walked towards the ground, the six of us eluded the whistling and nervously went the other direction towards “EttaKada Bus stop” which is a little forbidden for girls unless you really need to catch a bus. We waited there until the other girls arrived, I kept scrolling down on my new found love, a popular Tamil novel that I recently took interest in, my phone indicated battery that would last half a day but I kept reading anyway. I proposed that the girls leave, for Pavi and I were to take another route  stretching upto Yellanalli. (That didn’t happen anyway).

The bus stop- Etta Kada
The bus stop- Etta Kada

I had to switch places in the bus stop and keep my face as rigid as possible without looking sinister for boys and staffs frequent the tea shop on the opposite. One of my professors called me enquiring where I was, I thought I was caught for being off-ground but it was to enquire if I was travelling with my club. I told him that I wasn’t with them.

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Pavi arrived half an hour later. I told her my plan, she said not to take her home soon. I agreed. We began walking, clearly her adventure mood had died down, she kept talking about everything that upsets her. She wanted to be back onto the ground to watch the march past. I convinced her and steered her away towards Palada. This was one place that was not frequented by any kind of congesting traffic. Its greenery yet an air of a dry paradise would keep you fresh and awake. Pine and Eucalyptus trees carpet the left side of the road down to the valley slopes. The only clearings you would find are those made by small agro-industries from whose gates you would find somebody staring at you.

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Once the relatively thicker canopy thins out a rather sparsely tree-dotted valley with winding roads adorning the slopes become visible

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. The place is not made rather ugly by concrete buildings and even if there are any it just adds up to its scenery quotient. What is a place if you do not explore it by foot?. We had walked a very short distance and Pavi suggested that we turn back. Now my adventure mood lulled down. I promised her we would turn back with Palada, I was completely unsure of the distance but knew the landmarks .19792_1552928904989907_6057058634974110605_n

She believed me anyway and so thanks to her for it. When you have only one travel buddy, all your transit decisions have to be mutual or it is not going to work at all and would get messier than travelling alone( Alone is fun). We crossed mushroom culture units covered in royal blue synthetic covers for roofing and walls. I felt a relatively higher warmth and expansion near my lungs. I suggested a picture in the woods of eucalyptus where here and there sunlight lights up the ground like in a theatrical play. But Pavi said two girls , all alone in the woods, no lets get out of here. Reluctantly but later being convinced we continued onto the sunlit road. Pavi said the place reminded her of our field work village. Hardly would  one see houses and one’s eyes would inevitably fall on the  cultivation slopes and giant vegetable washing apparatus which was busy with farmers most of the time. We saw a pretty church but it was latched and locked

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We reached Palada and found most of the shops shut close. One general store was open and I found cookies and a drink. We decided to turn  back around and crossed construction workmen who kept staring at us. Pavi asked me if it was Bob Marley’s picture in my phone and I explained that it was Che Guevara.  The journey back made the hills seem even more like heaven. Now we were looking at what actually made the place beautiful, the low lying yet twisted hills of Ketti valley, the world’s second largest valley (that is what the internet says so don’t question me).

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I had to cope with Pavi’s guilt trips and didn’t take much notice of the vegetation and other things that would help me document a rather small yet filling journey. Beyond all this I loved her for coming and I will always love her despite the jerk she becomes when pissed.

I found myself complaining about lots of girls. Cynicism leaves a bad taste in the brain.  We kept talking about everything that was and was to be.  We had neared college when we decided to take a few selfies. Some two guys on a bike joked about our selfie as they crossed us. I assumed he was pissed because he wasn’t in the picture. We reached college, I convinced Pavi to get onto the ground through a short cut. I decided to go home hoping nobody would question me. I walked upto the upper bus stop and waited wondering if my plans of today were actually ruined. I heard the distant engines and was just in time to catch the mini-bus to yellanalli. I decided to take my favorite walking route back home and quitted taking the mini-bus to Odhanatty.

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journey back home

The place is weird for I often had dreams resembling the landscape with closely knitted yet very organized houses of the two or three villages one had to cross. It is a neat landscape with houses away from the noise of the Ooty-Coonoor Highway.  It gave me a connected feeling with the mountains yonder that seemed to zoom into view with every step one took into the road down the valley. There was a temple and I cannot  yet describe the powered up feelings of even just looking at hill-side temples.  Yonder was Mynala and then Dodabetta though they are technically not visible to the traveller.

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The hills are special for the slopes are grassy and the tree line is not much thought of as you only see grass, shrubs and other outgrowths and hardly ever trees. I had a very remember worthy dream of the place recently but it was an evening in my dreams. I was travelling exactly at noon. But the landscape was highlighted at every nook due to the overhead sun. I crossed a residential area where I often looked at a 2 storied house which had Chinese bells hung in the corridor.

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the serenity of temples up-slope
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i will now always remember

They were different from the most that I had seen since childhood. The silence of the afternoon broke by the clanked ringing of the bells as though from a Buddhist temple. Mum called me and said she was in Karakorai and I was to join her. Suddenly I realized I didn’t know where Karakorai was, I could remember the name board but not the village or the specific bus-stop. I decided to walk on until I see the board. Just to be sure , I enquired two men where Karakorai was and they pointed in the direction that I was travelling.

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the shade of the passer-by

I kept clicking pictures, joined mum, dreamily stared at the giant tree by a temple, walked up the slope where she had parked the two-wheeler and got home. What did I learn from the journey?. When time comes, I’d understand. Like Steve Jobs said, “YOU CAN CONNECT THE DOTS ONLY BACKWARDS”.

 

The Stillness within- Decoding the Signs of “DESTINY”

Disclaimer: I humbly disclose that the following are solely my personal individual opinions and I do not endorse them unless you feel they are worthy to follow or practice or even accept.- Shrutthi S.

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Death is just one of the many ways you can lose your life. It is just one of the many. One more is living a life dictated only by existing beliefs without finding a path of your own, that is not “REVOLTING”, that is called “LOSING YOUR LIFE”.

“All wisdom springs in those who have suffered enough pain and  those who have experimented too much and analyzed equally much, such are the people who make up quotes you read on the internet”.

“Indeed Tom, your failure to understand that there are things much worse than death has always been your greatest weakness”-  Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledore, Order of Merlin, First Class. (Courtesy of Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, Page 718).

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ask yourself repeatedly, until life answers back … WHY

 

For some death is the biggest thing to fear about. They live for themselves. Some fear loss of loved ones, they live for them. Some fear dying without finding any meaning in their lives, some fear living without finding any meaning at all. People of this kind are those who have endured all kinds of fear including those mentioned above.

“You call somebody “Too Good” or “Too bad” judging only upon their interaction with you , it means you know the world very less.“Life is not fair, simple” said Bill Gates. It does not mean you have to get heartless and give up on every virtue you have treasured and join the lot. It means you have to retreat, within yourself like a serpent retreating into its hole and understand why you are here, who  you are with reference to the people and events around you, in family, society and beyond, understand what sets you apart, listen to that voice in your head that pushes you in definite specific directions and move on. Suddenly all the world will make sense to you. Limitations, failures, heartbreaks they would seem like planned events in life pushing or pointing towards something. Something that ties them all up and decodes their mysteries, something that makes sense of every happening in your life, something that makes you feel isolated from the rest of the world (in a good way )though there are threads of bond spinning away from you to the people and things you love and care for.

“Knowing has always been different from realizing”.

“That which is taught has been always different from that which is learnt”.

“Fight not your life, for the Universe truly is not your enemy, whatsoever”.

“You are never too young to be spiritual (not religious, spiritual) or to be learned.”

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Travel within your mind, there are interesting things, an entire world.

Your signs of destiny can be often so encrypted by events and confusions that you perhaps are the only soul to make sense of it . Do not let anybody make sense of your life, trust me. Wise and good people do not tell you what your life is about. They will tell you what LIFE is about, what “YOUR LIFE IS ABOUT” they will let you figure it out by yourself. Because you were born alone and will die alone. It is your right and duty to walk your lonesome path yet free yet loved. Words are the body only, their meaning puts soul into them. In fact in the journey of finding yourself, you should get lost inside your mind, you should explore all its labyrinths in silence and understand everything, both prominent and hidden. Then you should also find a way out of your mind. And let that path stay. For future journeys and references. Your mind is where you dwell, not in places where you think “This is what other people think, I’ll be like them but I’ll pretend to be different”.  You will not die a satisfied person. Nothing can satisfy you better than living as yourself, wanting nothing but happy with that which is RIGHT.

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Figure out your own rhythm

We all are tied by tiny invisible threads of the universe. Some refer it to the “DOMINO EFFECT”, every event or happening sets off a series of happenings. So every decision you take, every action you do will affect those around you in big or small ways. So how do you know what to do and what to choose? Wise people would say “You will feel like it, in here”. Yes that place that houses that soft thumping organ, that space that holds your heart, simply you can feel it in your heart. This is right. And surprisingly, the brain and its logic will not oppose and resist. They will seem to be in balance and in harmony. You will feel you need NOBODY else’s consent, NOBODY’s. That is your higher calling. “The Gut feeling”. It hardly fails, you would have known it yourself, so go  ahead yet move with caution and always retreat when necessary.

IN there.............
IN there………….

This state of BALANCE is a sign you will soon understand the meaning of your life. The reason why you were born into this family, this geographical location, into this body, the reason why you went to this Kindergarten school, educated at a particular college, the reason why you won and lost certain battles. That moment which binds and ties all the events of your life and you feel no bloody need to explain yourself to the world and you feel an unfailing silence and hysteria(silent hysteria) better off calling it “INNER PEACE”, that moment will unfold your destiny.

First life will prepare you for it, the thing called “DESTINY”. If you were a passionate and emotional person who never let go of the smallest or biggest things, if you were somebody who did things once you felt them to be right, no matter what the consequence, if you have lived a life of solidarity and isolation even when you were really with people and you have harmed very few people(animals included) in your path of life so far, well this is your calling. Nobody would need to tell you where to go, you will figure it by yourself. Still there are challenges, there will be. You should not be obsessed by the concept of DESTINY and regard yourself as very special, accept the truth. If you die tomorrow, it won’t matter much to the universe as much as a fly dying. Death is death no matter who dies unless he is leaving back some legacy for others to learn and benefit from. So be ready for anything ahead. So far the journey had been good. But staying in balance is essential. For you can go rocketing in the wrong direction if you get “OBSESSESED WITH ONE PERSON OR THING” like James Redfield says in his book “THE CELESTINE PROPHECY”. Other than moments of perfect passionate work towards what you want, you should be able to come back to a normal life instead of going lane to lane advertising you are in “YOUR HIGHEST POTENTIAL”. If you do and if your depending and demanding from others, YOU ARE BEING WRONG. Accepting you are and you were wrong and being completely flexible to learning and completely practicing PATIENCE and full  TOLERANCE become inevitable.

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Those who want to come with you, naturally will. Do not wait too long.

You will stop expecting things eventually, so when good things happen you can truly feel their aura and when bad things do, you will learn and move on. You will know that who are meant to come with you will. You will not use the excuse of “Possessiveness or jealousy”. Those who are MEANT TO COME WITH YOU…. “WILL”, on their own, with your little effort. This stage is not the stage of a hermit or sage as we are taught (and you are never too young to be one), it is a stage in The AWAKENING PROCESS that few are lucky enough to experience. You may also experience abandoning food addictions by yourself and eat and sleep in balance, you will begin taking care of your body( WHO ELSE WILL HELP YOU DO ALL YOUR WORK?).You will also talk when necessary, retreat into silence when there is nothing to talk to.You will apologize when necessary. You will not beg people to understand you. You will not act false. You will not take material losses too hard. Simply put, “The list of the things you fear will shrink to a surprising proportion”. You will let things happen, watching them both as The Master and as The Student.You will take both positive and negative criticism positively. You will know yet when to OFFEND when necessary.Some people need and deserve it, yes.

This stage will not come easily to those who only rely heavily on facts. Because their mind is wired in such a way that without attestation from somebody else, it would take and act upon nothing, such is the unfortunate fact . Read enough, modify when necessary, take walks and shop like a normal person, inside you will feel different but and you will know it.

when the student is ready, the teacher appears
when the student is ready, the teacher appears

Any bit of arrogance and ego must be burst to smithereens, by you of course. Remember that nobody’s an angel. That would not be “Being humble” or “Anti-Biblical” but the truth. Angels do not exist in human form amongst us, (they are a different kind). Not amongst us wanting and living the life like every other human. Getting a high on life like that is not a miracle, many people experience it. Just not in big numbers to be prominent. It’s a process , a stage in human life. Some who are lucky enough go through it. Many happen to be people “Who proudly wear their heart on their sleeves”( Quoted from Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix)”. Hold on when you have to. Let go when you have to. Do not stomp the ground and bat the floor like an infant that life was not fair, we have crossed stages of infancy, we do not want to be doing that all over again. Do not blame anybody for your misfortunes openly, neither praise in the open. Instead work towards what scriptures long preached, “DESTINY”. P.S. hurt nor destroy no good heart in the process, do not take other people’s decisions, do not demand understanding from people. You do not need alms.  Do not destroy emotions, just pack them at the bottom of your heart, wait for the right time”.

within the stillness of your heart
within the stillness of your heart

One more thing,  “Do not be afraid to be W  E   I  R  D”.

OH WHY LOVE MY LOVE..?? READ ON

Do we need love?
Do we need love?

LOVE AND WHY

WE have heard and read numerous poems and emotional verses about what we call “Romantic Love”. We have heard and seen families fall apart because of the ensuing battle of two people to live together or have also heard about their failure to keep up post-marital understanding and intimacy. Hence we conclude that the so called FEELING is temporary and fading. So is the shallow judgment. Let us take a look at the facts a little bit historically and scientifically. In the beginning of the world perhaps, the concept of a mutually respecting couple as a basic unit of society may not have existed because there was no need of it. Creatures all over just needed to ensure propagation of their respective species. We can see that as creatures evolved from unicellular loners to reptiles, birds and then mammals the concept of group living, herds, prides etc. of animals came into effect. Simply civilization and growth of intelligence fuelled and supported the concept of “single mate” or monogamous relationships and wholesome living within the community became as important as living and surviving itself. . So the concept of choosing a mate did not stop with having a family alone, it continued into care of newborn ones until maturity. You can see that in many bird species including the Penguins. (It is a charm to see a Penguin family).

Then came in man whose predecessors, the Apes and Primates   demonstrated COMMUNITY LIVING and GUIDELINES of Group living. Then man’s civilization levels grew and man began appreciating woman than just the bearer of his offspring. Appreciation and care was the basis of love. What else can it be?. Monogamous relationships exist throughout the animal kingdom without the social ritual of Marriage. But we humans do have the practice. They say it is not just intelligence but the power of empathy and understanding that makes man “MORE INTELLIGENT” than the rest of the species. The concept of CHOOSING A MATE gives a creature his independence in life. If animals can live satisfied with that till death, what is the harm if humans had to do the same? For majority of the population (whether they admit it or not) life is all about Loving and being Loved. What more can satisfy a living creature? Imagine the conception or creation of a child without love? Does that even seem right to you? No. It doesn’t because that means moving backwards in the evolutionary ladder. If you are the individual unit of a community and your bonding with another being will create a new complex unit called family, the choice by nature’s way, by the way of Higher intelligence must be yours, in fact yours only.

We call the concept of true love farfetched and impractical. We call those who believe in it as dreamers and fools. Well listen to this, Reptiles live, protect themselves, choose a mate within a short time, produce offsprings BUT THEY DO NOT FORM CLOSE BONDS WITH THEIR MATES NOR THEIR OFFSPRINGS. Their emotional range is all about fear, anger, vigilance and sensing danger. Do you get it? So if you live a life with no bonds and call yourself a practical party animal, you are right, you are the animal, moved far behind in the evolutionary ladder. Simply put, if you are intelligent by nature you must be able to LOVE and make lifelong bonds with people and understand that intelligence is not just about math and knowhow.  In fact you can see people with High IQ as well as a Good social behavior as well as an adequate Emotional Intelligence.

Courtship is the act of meeting, impressing the other partner and deciding on whether a family together would be suitable. Human beings do that the LONGEST, which is beautiful. They meet, get impressed and feet-swept by each other. Show each other that they like each other, dream, appreciate, associate them with little and big things, remember each others’ birthdays express care, concern, loyalty, sincerity and give up for each other, fight for each other, protect the other, stand for each other and then promise a lifetime together. Imagine the brainpower necessary to process these complex information and manage other things in accordance to these. The satisfaction released by Endorphins in the brain by the thought of love acts as a natural stress reliever and pain killer to handle the other pressures of life. Nobody teaches people all these too much. They feel it themselves. Non-verbal translation of Intelligence and information. Now tell me who is STUPID? the ones who shun love or the ones who appreciate , ADORE and CELEBRATE it?